• Got Scars?

Do you have a scar? Is there a story behind it? I’ve noticed, over the last decade in ministry, that most people like talking about the stories behind their scars.  And, it’s usually not the scar, or the injury, that is the main character in the story, either. The main portion of the story usually surrounds the circumstances leading up to the injury, as opposed to graphic details about the injury itself.  (Although there are those people who like to go into the gory details too.)

The picture to the left is a childhood scar that I have on my chin from a bicycle accident.  I was riding my bike to football practice, with my friend Mike Young, when he exclaimed; “Look out for that… (BOOM) car!” Sure enough, I bounced my face into the hood and grill of an electric blue Cadillac.  Oh, and this is a little embarrassing, did I mention that the Caddy was parked? Needless to say, I was a little dazed after the initial impact and was leaning against the car for balance and to take stock of all my parts, when owner of the Cadillac came RUNNING out of his house waving his hands and yelling from the front door all the way down to his precious car, which is now dripping with gallons of my precious crimson go juice.  It became immediately obvious that he was WAY more concerned with the condition of his car then the fact that I had sliced my chin open (8 stitches) and snapped one of my two my front teeth in half.

Well, Just like I have physical scars that remind me about my physical injuries, many times how I react (or overreact) in stressful situations reminds me (like a scar) about emotional injuries from my past.  The problem, however, with emotional scars is that people (like me) are MUCH less likely to want to talk about the circumstances that surround an emotional scar! This, of course, is not a completely bad thing.  No one wants to share their personal baggage with just anyone.  My concern is when I feel like I am not opening up or sharing with ANYONE, and my baggage comes out in the form of a short temper or being argumentative or dismissive.  Sound familiar?

So, I thought I would share some of my favorite verses from Romans on our responsibility to encourage one another and to be encouraged that God is in control!

Romans 12:13 Contribute to the needs of God’s people [sharing in the necessities of the saints]; pursue the practice of hospitality. (My wife, Rachel, is great at this one.)

Romans 12:14 Bless those who persecute you [who are cruel in their attitude toward you]; bless and do not curse them.

Romans 12:15 Rejoice with those who rejoice [sharing others' joy], and weep with those who weep [sharing others' grief].

Romans 12:16 Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] {and} give yourselves to humble tasks. Never overestimate yourself {or} be wise in your own conceits.

Romans 12:17 Repay no one evil for evil, but take thought for what is honest {and} proper {and} noble [aiming to be above reproach] in the sight of everyone.

Romans 12:18 If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Romans 12:20 But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head.

Romans 12:21 Do not let yourself be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Amen

How about you? Do you have any good scar stories?

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  • Matthew Kim

    Awesome post Barry!!! This is exactly what I needed! Time and time again I’m soooooo in awe of Gods timing for everything (like on a personal level). I could definitely relate to the part where you talked about misdirecting emotional stress. I think that the Bible verses are exactly the kind of guidelines that high-school and middle-school students need to see in order to persistently overcome temptation, whether it deals with integrity or various ‘it factors,’ and pursue a Christ centered life. Easier said than done ofcourse!